How Should I Talk To My Ex Boyfriend? Best Things To Say
It's not uncommon these days to keep in touch after the end of a relationship. If you happened to be on the receiving end of the breakup, you might even be looking for ways to win your ex boyfriend back.
Talking to your ex boyfriend is a critical part of the reconciliation process, and you'll need to know exactly how to handle such contact.
So you're all broken up... and then he calls you. What should you do? How should you react?
If you're wondering how should you talk to your ex boyfriend, you're already a step ahead of the game. Many women think they can "wing it" in such a situation, and they pick up the phone without thinking. If your goal is to someday date your ex again, you have to be very careful with what you say - and don't say - when your exboyfriend contacts you again.
One of the best moves for getting your ex interested in you again? Not picking up that phone. At least, not on the initial call. By letting your boyfriend leave a message he has to wonder where you are, and what you're doing. And by not calling back immediately? You also earn some respect by not appearing needy or desperate. These are two things that can really kill your chances when it comes to winning your boyfriend back, so make sure you avoid feeling or at least outwardly exhibiting those emotions.
But once you do pick up the phone... what do you talk about? When your ex boyfriend calls you up, what are the ground rules, and what things can you say to make him want you again?
First things first: you need to remain calm, cool, and collected. The more easygoing and chill you can be on the phone, the better your chances of making a good impression. If you come off as nervous, your ex will know why. If you sound overly anxious or excited to hear from him? He'll know that too. And if your breakup ended badly, leaving you bitter and angry? Your ex boyfriend will sense those emotions if you're still harboring them. For this reason, you need to clear your head and try to remain casually impassive when your ex boyfriend contacts you again.
Want a quick tip on how to handle the ex boyfriend phone call? Pour yourself a glass of water, or grab a snack. If you're eating or drinking while talking to your ex, you'll sound extremely comfortable to him. It'll also sound as if he caught you busy doing something, and this will help out with getting off the phone quickly.
So why, if you've been waiting for your ex to call you, are you getting off the phone so fast? Because one of the best things to do when your exboyfriend calls is to leave him wanting more. By giving him the impression that you've got other things to do, your ex will start getting really curious about your new life. He'll also need to call back again, since he never really got to 'talk' to you.
How should you be talking to your exboyfriend? By being casual and a little bit vague. Ask him about work, home, or school... but not about his social life. Don't press for answers or ask if he's been seeing someone else. Above all else, do NOT talk about your break up. And if he brings it up? All the more reason to get off the phone quickly, with something like:
"Listen I'm sorry, but you caught me as I was just about ready to run out the door. Give me a call some other time, and we can catch up. Cool?"
By remaining so non-committal and uncaring about whether or not your ex calls you back, you're putting yourself right back in his head again. And by leaving the conversation so quickly, your ex boyfriend will wonder where you're going (and who you're going with). He'll actually feel a little bit rejected, because whatever you're going to do right now is obviously more important to than talking to him. Causing him to feel this way can actually accelerate the process of your ex wanting you back.
The process of getting back together with an ex boyfriend can take some time and patience. You'll also want to regain some of the power and control over the relationship that was lost when your ex broke up with you. These things are important, but you'll never get your ex back without a step by step plan. By learning what to do and when to do it, you can maximize your chances of successfully building a new relationship together.
To fix a breakup in which your boyfriend dumped you, you'll need a male's viewpoint, brutal honesty, and straight-forward advice. And this is exactly where the Ex Factor Guide, by Brad Browning, comes into play.
Written exclusively for women trying to get back with an ex boyfriend, Ex Factor Guide is just that: a complete, step-by-step guide to not only getting your man back, but also keeping him around for as long as you want him.
The written guidebook and video files downloaded here go WAY beyond the more common breakup tips and tactics you may have already read. Author and relationship expert Brad Browning brings you deeper and deeper into your ex boyfriend's mind and mindset, showing you exactly what he's thinking before, during, and just after he breaks up with you.
The system goes into great detail as to why your ex boyfriend might currently be coldly ignoring you, and what you can do to draw him closer instead of shoving him unintentionally away. You'll learn tips and tactics for turning the tide, regaining control, and seizing back some semblance of power over whether or not you continue the relationship. Browning shows you what you're doing right now that may be inhibiting or preventing you from getting your ex back, as well as simple adjustments that will make your ex start wanting and needing you again.
One of the strengths of Ex Factor Guide is the author's no-bullshit approach and brutal honesty. He makes no apologizes as he dives into the male psyche, showing you why guys react to certain relationship situations the way they do. Over the course of the system's many video files, you'll gain new insight as to what may have caused your breakup... and how you can easily reverse it with a minimum of effort.
At the very least, check out this FREE 8-minute video of how you should be handling the initial stages of your breakup, and how you can regain your ex boyfriend's interest and attention even when it seems he might be 'over' the relationship.